Why sverhintellektualnym men not lucky with women

We teach men, science communication with the women for several years ... and noticed that one of the scenarios on which operate many men, a very no-go. We identified this scenario as a "denial paradox geniuses." Is it that men, producing impression on women, constantly building of a sverhintellektualnyh people (or indeed they are). We believe that much of what you IFAW below, you seem quite describing another person, but not you. Well, if so. Because this is a problem that confronted many of our friends. I ourselves. You know that little otlichaeshsya from other men. You probably still in their teens realized that you look at things differently, to think differently than everyone else. And you probably realized that tvoja strong opinion gives you an advantage over others in many areas of life ... Twohy dissenting opinion giving you a specific advantage, which is very, very helps you in life: YOU USUALLY RIGHTS. This move helps rightness in many spheres of their lives, their rightness of their way clear. But, unfortunately, this tvoja dissenting opinion often can be futile, if not VREDNYM when we consider a key area of our lives: RELATIONSHIP WITH WOMEN. In addition, we, men, internally assume that if we are going to display their intelligence and education, "load" women their knowledge, they invariably imbued with tremendous sympathy to us. Unfortunately, this is very far from the truth. Now switch your imagination, and listen ten reasons why most intelligent guys fail with women ... and what to do. These causes can be combined in various men's quite different combinations. First CAUSE: When a man acted improperly, he did not see or did not want to see and recognize that It's no secret that wise guys used to consider themselves PRAVYMI in most situations. And what do they do when they are in a situation where they are wrong? They quickly tried to hide its wrong and find a way out of such a situation. They did not accept that wrong. Remember: if you got in a situation with a woman, when you are wrong, you never have to UBEGAT PRYATATSYA OR! Of course, accept the fact that you are not human - it is very difficult for an energetic guy. And accept that you are not only wrong, but did not even know how to correct his mistake - even more difficult test. However, it turned out that it is those men who acknowledge their wrong, and his ignorance, which is the way out of the situation, learn faster than others, and seek better results than others. And, in addition, NRAVYATSYA PARNI WOMEN THAT MAY OWN NEPRAVOTU RECOGNIZE THAT UCHATSYA FOR THEIR MISTAKES AND DO NOT REPEAT STREMYATSYA. Even very intelligent men brings their logic. They believe: BECAUSE I DID NOT GLUPY PAREN, IN WHICH IF I CAN NOT VYYASNIT HOW TO WOMEN WITH USPESHNYM, NERAZRESHIMA TO THIS PROBLEM AND NOT COST MORE TO DECISION I ISKAL. As you know, this is a direct way to give up. If this is your life story, read priuchay themselves to a goal before the end, carefully examining where you are wrong. Second CAUSE: They are blind and arrogant In short, many of the guys who consider themselves very smart, refuse to recognize the fact that a good, solid and substantive response could come from anyone else but themselves. In other words, they think: is this Eloise might say something smart? I therefore do not take into account other, considering themselves above the rest smarter. Traditionally ask you a question. Simulate this situation: you do move Sahara on foot. Who would you, in such a case would be chosen as a guide? Most smart guy on the planet with the highest coefficient of intelligence, or cave man who lived a million years ago, which has accumulated experience in the fight for survival, which has about 50 IQ - well below nowhere ... but he knows how to survive in difficult circumstances as to earn your food and tame wild animals? Rather, you choose the second. Now, we hope you understand that you need not equal to the so-called wiseguys, but on the people who overcame their lives for a lot of obstacles, survived many dangerous situations and are not theoretical, but practical experience. And now we ask you a question similar to the above. If you want to learn how to be successful with women, from whom you will be asking the board: among educated intellectual, or the guy poglupee in terms of exact sciences, but eat dog in the art of the gains women's hearts? All these guys-guys who do not want to learn from those who may be poglupee or, conversely, smarter, they make a great mistake, considering: "For what it articles, I should learn from them?". And he serves disservice to the legacy of our folklore, which often glorifies false model in terms of the gains the women's hearts. Indeed, perhaps life has led you to the conclusion that moving neotesanny can make the heart beat more often female than the prince on a white horse. What is the conclusion? Stop clueless be arrogant. Look around - because by your side full of guys who know how much iskusney you behave with women. Ask them to help you - do you save years, the stress, years of hard work. Main - are you able to analyze and draw conclusions. Third CAUSE: scarce skills in communication Here we all think: how many intelligent guys disappear from the fact that their skills to maintain a conversation with women are very poor. Many of them think: "Why should I get this in communication skills, these skills - to lower creatures that are nonsense and do not appreciate the time ..." These guys do not even attempt to learn these skills because they do not understand that these automatic skills help them be successful with women. Incidentally, in case you do not know ... Skills in communication - this is just skills. They are not public information. There is no theory on them. They simply are skills that need to get their own. And you do not get these skills, just thinking about them. You will receive them only in practice. Excellent skills in communication - the basis for good relations with people. And if you do not enjoy such skills, you ponizhaesh drastically their ability to succeed with women. Fourth CAUSE: they are suspicious in itself Our subconscious always seeking to protect us from undue risk, and some guys result of this "phenomenon" becomes quite illogical side effect. When they were going to find an approach to the woman, it must invent "sickness sentence," explaining why this approach will not work. They simply to configure their own failure. They use all his rich imagination to imagine how a woman would be their "otshivat" inside themselves some negative emotional mood, which ultimately leads to total passivity. This is all truth, which is very difficult to reach using the usual logic - here requires enormous PRACTICAL experience that intellectuals can boast extremely rare. And as a result, they are people who knowingly doom themselves to failure, even when not yet begun to operate. Maybe the time has come to live by this stop and focus on the consequences? Fifth CAUSE: they are seeking only "informative decision" What makes the intellectuals, when faced with a problem or wants to understand something that he does not know? He is looking for information that will help him solve the problem. The more information, the clear answer to that question. Information - mutually intelligible. Detected a computer virus? Nothing is easier - seek on the Internet anti-virus program. Do not know how to replace the battery in the car? Buy the Book and Open such a visit. One does not know what the definition of a word? Create a dictionary. So what intellectuals do when they have problems with women appear? Correct - talked for TIR and begin to look for the answer there. They want to get as much information. They think that the answer will find, if a certain technique to explore. Or read another book. We are already tired of writing about it, but ... Many still do not understand. It is not clear that in order to succeed, you need to spend a lot of time to study basics, to change their attitudes towards domestic studied the issue and of itself. We surely do not want to say that the study of literature, such as this article - an exercise in futility. Not at all. But if you have a problem, which is EMOTSIONALNOY FIZIOLOGICHESKOY or by nature, how much would you have millions of smart books or read, it almost does not help the cause. You have to get in the real world and test themselves at all. YOU should not look at the SAMU problem, but in KOREN problem. When it comes to relationships with women, it is likely that in your arsenal has a natural MORE THAN ENOUGH "information". Intellectuals often use the information to escape from taking action. This is one of the mechanisms of psychological protection. Remember: it protects you from stress, but it hurts your success. Sixth CAUSE: they focus on logic rather than emotion Here you thesis: "Women do not feel attracted to the men who forced them DUMAT. They feel attracted to the men who forced them CHUVSTVOVAT." So, what do intellectuals, the first woman met? EXACTLY! They learn intellectual conversation. They are trying to take a highly women interviewed, not knowing that by doing so they only hurt themselves. These "trigger" for an informative communication channel, which has a negligible effect on the awakening of women's attraction as compared to EMOTSIONALNYM. Perhaps the monkey, stupidly barabanyaschaya Keyboard pick up faster collection of works of Pushkin than you zataschish woman in bed, holding her intelligent conversation. When you are talking to a woman about any abstruse nonsense you, figuratively speaking, put yourself in the forehead bright and colorful stamp: "I failed with women". Typical topics of discussion in such discussions are: Work Institute, politics, religion, weather and anything necessarily about computers, mathematics and artificial intelligence. A woman waiting for the discussion of human relationships. They are waiting for compliments. They are waiting game finally. If you come to the case creatively, we can achieve much. Ask, for example, to issue the following lines: "Why all the women said that they like sweet, milenkih boys, as well as themselves drawn to the selfish, jaunty bad guys?" -- and then receive pleasure from a cheerful, emotional conversation. Seventh CAUSE: they do not enjoy the immediate impulse Intellectuals usually find time to mix well to think over the situation. If they decide to test, the produmyvayut each question carefully. If faced with a mathematical challenge, then sit and decide it through. Intellectuals can devote at least some time to prepare for each situation and then boasting success. And it helps them in their lives. Not so with women. If you do not know what to do at each step, it will be "otshit" very quickly. For women, there is a tremendous one, a special instinct for such guys. For women, there are a number of tricks and stunts, they are experiencing us to determine to what category we belong - to those who "seeks his" and "who is not seeking her". And if you otnosishsya second category, it very quickly provalishsya on one of these tests. But worst of all is that you will not even know that you had experienced. The key to the formation of the more successful a woman is the ability to treat all tests, it sent you. So, if you have not yet read the article "Checking" Do it now, without delay. Too smart men usually do not have the skill of the gains women at emotional level, so they are not guided by the Interior minute gusts of emotion. They are not decisive. They do not avantyurny. They are not capable of living today. Therefore, before ascertain how to deal with those checks, you need to start to learn how to build a relationship with a woman on the emotional level as her show that you have the basic skills, how to show themselves in the best light. Eighth CAUSE: they think that the implementation of "pleasant" things - a "reasonable way" As usual, you ask a question at the landfill, which navedet you on the correct thoughts. Suppose you going to visit his supermodel, with the most beautiful, the one with which you want. Which of the following listed ways to prepare for the first Dater you thou most reasonable? Learn what flowers she likes most, and to appear to visit with a huge bouquet to strike her. Find out what she likes to visit places most of all, and to invite her. Find out what she likes most of all is for you to keep it in the restaurant ... pleasing her, and she was able to see that you cared enough to select exactly what she gets pleasure. Well, the time limit expired. What item do you chose? We warned that this - the issue at the landfill. :) Among the listed NO ONE NI PRAVILNOGO RESPONSE. But WHY - ask you? These three options, all seemed logical, right? Why would either come to visit his armful of flowers? Why would either find where she likes to walk? Why would either keep it in a restaurant, which she like? Now interchange ... Smart guys think that they do commit INTELLIGENT AND ZNACHIMY act when they do such things like a woman buying her favorite colors ... and think that this provides a victory in the first date. Agree? They generated about brain following thought: "I want to show a guy that reflect everything in advance, and I am going to come with flowers to show her that I KNOW THAT SHE LOVES that I am ready to give it what it wants, when it wants, and when she sees these flowers, it grows right there and fall for me. " Not a bad logic, is not it? OK, but there is one tiny mistake to allow these "guys" - it is that they do not realize that do not have to be smart to do that. Anyone can do it! ANY donkey can learn subservient to the woman. WOMEN AND THINKS THIS! SO THAT ALMOST EVERY POSTUPAET THUS! Again, in its first pages, we are not talking about this again. Smart guy, with all his arrogance of the proud, will think that he one such anthem, which uses the "thoughtful" approach ... and the woman he was trying to win, take it as another fancy man who wants her, trying to buy her body for its "presmykanie" before it. Another question to ponder. Ninth CAUSE: they always want to look at all the experts Have you ever met an intellectual guy who likes to consider himself a connoisseur in any matter? You met someone who would be up to the loss of pulse would argue with you about what the very weak understanding, if not smyslit? Consequently, which makes fool of himself, simply because there can close your mouth? I very rare phrase, which he delivers is "I do not know." At our course "Advanced Russian Design Of Relationship" we were faced with such people many times. "Ashes" is not like to be novices in any case. They prefer to say something, rather than remain silent. In any conversation they manage to walk a clever phrase, especially if they watch others. This is exactly the type of people complexes which are not resulting in a complete closure, but in excessive talking. They want to portray themselves from sverhintellektualov, thus seem the "expert" in any situation. Rather than rest say "Yes, I amateur in the matter. Teach me what I have to do and how to act, they prefer BOSCH their clever phrase, thereby exposing themselves stupid. Therefore, they fail. Our advice to you: do not be afraid to be in something newcomer. Better Off confess this than to say that you do not know. Tenth CAUSE: they may not have to deal with the sense of danger and other emotions INTENSITY intellectual guy - this is his opinion. His SLABOST - it is often EMOTSII. This guy is often OSTANAVLIVAETSYA TO MINE. Full stop. And even frozen. And as many intellectuals are not accustomed to dealing with things in which they have dealt with poorly, they are simply a UBEGAYUT from danger without a fight. Many men prefer UMERET alone than admit that they do not know how to deal with their emotions ... or ask for help! After all, any guy can really learn to treat and even SPRAVLYATSYA with their emotions (even with such a sense as a sense of danger) if he only spends time and effort to learn HOW to do it.