5 mistakes that prevent you Dating

Here are five mistakes that make single women (and men) in the initial phases of visits and relations. If something sounds familiar - let's try to rectify that! 1. If you think you have no love, and it will not be. Many women after a series of fruitless visits of parting and feel that they have something fatal, "nevlyublyaemoe." They say phrases like "Who can I be needed? Obviously, I am doomed to loneliness. Me at the crown of celibacy (angry rock, very fate, which go)." Of course, we all deserve love! And as you thought? But if you insist on a pro constantly twisted his share of loneliness and stamp on the forehead, that attitude is beginning to manifest itself in every word, every act and a gesture. In these women Muriel doomed halves with timid hope and the desire to do twice as much to keep a devotee of the ordinary evil fascination. Result: we are working relationship, anchored for cars passing train, just not staying alone. And if you start to convince yourself to the contrary - "I have such a beautiful (the good, clever, erudirovannaya, charming, I just doomed to a great love?" Maybe cranial worth a try, as did the "most charming and attractive" Irina Muravyova heroine? To Retain away defeatist thoughts, start with a simple: diary afterwards. For example Bridget Jones fyrchite men vypleskivayte evil thoughts to paper and ubezhdayte itself, in its irresistibility. Day after day, it will be given all the easier. Ask your friends and your girlfriends to compile lists of positive qualities and record them on the first page of the diary to see them constantly. 2. Try to stop to see the enemy in men. Yes, the harsh truth of life is that good men were far fewer than the bad, mediocre and fair. But they remained, and they can be found anywhere. According to a law of nature Harmful women pulls it is to those men, who tend not to respond to calls and sms ethicists, say idiotic false excuses to care only about their mental rest, recognized in love and then have sex with your best friend. Such a feeling that women tend to have a idiocy. Sometimes the reason you need to go in childhood: perhaps your father was the soul of the company, but the harsh and cold homes. You had to climb out of the skin, to earn his attention. When you grew up, you still metaphorically meet with the "Pope". Believe me - life with well-positive man, boring and predictable at first glance, be denied the extreme ups and downs, but full of serenity, warmth and care. 3. Repeat as spell: love - is not a leash. Once 29 - year-old Tony, my acquaintance, has received the offer hands and hearts. It was her dream home life, in her fantasies, she and the groom were inseparable and the day and night. But the young man have other views on family life. He was not ready to relinquish the sake of the fish and Tony preference each week with friends, although she believed that it was not worth spending their free time on other people's lives. Her uncertainty and a thirst for attention future spouse literally put under house arrest. Of course, it was only a desire to break out of it. As a result, Tony and groom parted. Summary: even the happy couple are in need of space for growth. The more dynamic the life they live - to work, hobbies, friends - so they become more interesting for its second halves. 4. Treason - is always a treason, even if it happened in the imagination. It goes without saying that your partner has the right to the attitudes on with respect and kindness. Had he told about their problems, and good luck in bed failures, joys and frustrations attractive blond-colleague at work, you would have liked? Probably sounds somewhat madly, and all the same: there is one person who is primarily a right to your time and energy, and the man - your friend, husband, fiance. And if you spend your 'mental energies to another person, you are agreeing to pull energy from their relationship. That is your partner, rather than colleague, has the right to hear about your first flights in a dream, intimate experiences and felicitous joke, podslushannuyu in the subway. 5. If you constantly need to be right, this is wrong. Perhaps you feel that you have a lot in common with another. You both economists, both are loved to play backgammon, and the tango dance at a ski. Perhaps you know some steps better than your partner, in addition know how to dance waltz and a little salsa. This does not mean that it is you also have to better understand the wines, engine oil and modern drama. The habit is similar to the justice of the disease. Once otlichivshis, people want to be right in everything. Turn difficult, but possible. Apologize - this does not show weakness. What's happening in love must concede, and sometimes very strongly.